Love vs desire

In today's world, or maybe since the beginning of time, love and desire have been intertwined. We have in our head that if we desire we love and if we love we desire. Actually desire is the opposite of love. We desire what we lack, not what we have. The absence makes us desire. Love is what is there, what exists, not what is lacking. We can't desire something that we have. Desire stops with the fulfillment of that desire. We can't be in a state of need of what is missing and in love, at the same time. We love too much to compensate the fact that someone love us not enough or not like us. We love too much thinking that showing all that love is gonna ignite the same love. Nothing can be more wrong. Love is there or it isn't there. If it's not there it isn't love. I heard recently in a video that if we wonder if a person is right for us it's because she/he isn't. Point à la ligne.
Je t'aime moi non plus
It isn't good or right to love too much. It is not good for us and it is not good for the person receiving that excess of love. We create a web that keeps both prisoners of that twisted relationship. Entangled. 
Sometimes if we truly love we have to understand that loving to let go of the person of our love. Liberating everyone. Even if it hurts. Even if we feel the vacuum afterward. The absence. Because to love too much is a sort of addiction. We get addicted to the object of our love. With love comes commitment and effort. Maybe that's why l'amour n'est pas aimé at a time of fast consumption. 
When we truly love someone, we love the essence of that person, even if or even more, when we disagree. 
I rather argue with you than make love to someone else.
Nonetheless we can't only be a giver. Even love has to be contained sometimes. 
It is said that God wanted to create the world on giving only but he realized that love had to be contained with restraint. Like the water contained by the shores of a river. 
L'important est de ne jamais désespérer. 
Sometimes the only thing to do is to wait. 
Everything has been done. 
It's in the hands of the Higher Force. 
B'H'